Affirm her daily. Tell her she looks great when she leaves for
work. Send her out the door with a hug,
a kiss, a love note. Do it all again when
you see her later at home. Let others know that you're proud she's your girl.
Brag about how much you love it when she cooks your favorite food. Hold her hand in public. Escort her like a
gentleman. Get her a drink at the party.
Most of all, tell her you love her and
show her you do.
· Be silly with her. One of the best parts of a relationship is having
those moments together when you're both just enjoying each other's
company. Re-tell the awkward moments
when you were dating. Or the first time
you got embarrassed in front of the other. Who says play time ends when you're no longer a child? Laugh and connect. These are precious memories that will
reinforce your bond.
·
Ask her what she would like to do on those
special occasion days throughout the year. But don't ask an open-ended question.
Ask her to choose between Choice A,
Choice B, or Choice C. For example,
"Hey honey, your birthday is coming up.
I was thinking we could either try that new restaurant you've been
wanting to go to, or I could pack a picnic and we could hike that trail we've
been talking about, or I could set up a spa day and we can get massages since I
know you enjoy them." The point is
you plan the date. This shows that you've taken the time to 1) notice her
interests and 2) make an effort to plan something that will make her feel extra
special.
·
Give her your full attention. Women are social creatures. We like to talk! We just want to tell you something funny happened
at work or something new that we've learned or that something is on our minds. Even
if it means you saying, "Would it be ok if we talk in a little bit? I really want to finish watching this game and
then I am all ears." Most women would
accept that. And if the information/situation is really urgent, we would say so.
·
Acknowledge when you mess up. Recognize that you hurt her by your words or
actions. A simple statement either
verbally or written will do. It has to be genuine. It should also be done privately so that there is
no distraction and a opportunity for conversation can take place. Include suggestions on how both of you can avoid having the situation happen again. This will show that you have spent some time reflecting. Perhaps both of you can mutually agree that she does this and you do that
so that anger and frustration are minimized in the future.
·
Offer her help when you see her struggling. No one knows her better than you. You notice she's not her usual self, she
seems stressed, quick to snap back. Women tend to be overwhelmed with the "to do" list in their heads. Instead of saying, "What's wrong with you?" Ask her, "How can I help you?" And when she spouts
off a list of things to do, instead of absorbing the stress, calmly reassure her
that you're there to help and ask her to prioritize her top two items that
you can do. When you're done folding
that basket of laundry and packing the kids' lunches, go back and tell
her that you're ready for the next task.
She'll appreciate that she can count on you.
By engaging in these six activities, you will show your love
and appreciation for your girl and she will reciprocate. That's what a partnership is all about. Your woman will indeed, be happy, and so will you. Have something to add? Please leave a comment!
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